For the psychologist and teacher in cognition and language João Oliveira, it is necessary to observe the position of the couple at dawn, since those chosen at bedtime rarely remain the same after a nap. Paulo Sergio de Camargo, a body language specialist, author of ” Corporal Language: Techniques for Improving Personal and Professional Relationships ” as well as Ronaldo Antonio Cavalli, who teaches courses and courses on the subject, also give their opinion on this. Take a look at what the most common sleeping positions may indicate regarding a relationship.
Backwards, but touching : a couple who accustomed to sleep in this position preserves their individual space without losing contact. “These are dynamic people, who have independent lives, but have a stable and healthy relationship,” Oliveira says. According to the specialist, this position reveals that there is trust in the relationship and that one needs the presence of the other. “It looks like the couple stands in front of a mirror. This symmetry shows that the two are in tune. There is a need for the presence of the other. The time of separation between the two is very short. “
Back and Separate : This sleeping position is a sign that something can go wrong in the relationship. According to Oliveira, it reveals the need for separation and greater freedom in their lives. “Lack of contact between bodies in opposite directions can mean a strong dispute over space or the total independence of the other.” Camargo points out that if the hands were closed and the body tense, it is a sign that the couple does not want to communicate after a fight. But if the body is loose, it is a sign that there is no tension in the relationship. In this case, the position could indicate trust in the couple and respect for the space of the other.
Facing the other, without touching : According to Camargo, the couple that sleeps in this position wants intimacy and needs to observe their spouse, the more they respect their space and tend to feel less jealous. “They know how to deal with routine and daily problems, also respect the moments alone of each, without ever distancing itself,” he says. Oliveira also believes that this couple lives a good moment in their relationship. “Even if there is no contact, simply returning the body to the other person means accepting the other as part of oneself. He is probably two great friends and companions, and his sex life is quite active, “he says.
Interlaced : for body language specialists, this position is a sign of desire and a strong passion. “It is very common in the beginning of a relationship and it usually happens when both fall asleep after having intimacy, with the intention of uniting the body in one” says Oliveira. The open arms are a sign of proximity and the interlacing of the legs, according to Cavalli, reveal sexual desire. For him, it is possible that the couple who sleeps in that position suffer from jealousy.
From teaspoon : According to the specialist Sergio de Camargo, the person who embraces tends to guide and protect the other in the relationship, and the couple feels safe and comfortable at their side. “Perhaps it is the position that best reflects the perfect harmony in which a couple lives. The bodies become one, there is the passion and need to be together, “he says. But, according to Oliveira, this position may also suggest that there is some insecurity in the relationship. “Do not be fooled into thinking that whoever sleeps in this position is always at an ideal time. It may also be an attempt to secure the other in a relationship that is not going well, “he says.
Embraced : For the body language specialist Antonio Cavalli, the embrace reveals commitment, love and affection between the couple. “That position reveals a good relationship. The couple is in an excellent moment and the sex life must be perfect, “says Oliveira. According to him, the one who seeks shelter in the other shows a deep affection for the couple. Camargo for his part says that the head on the man is an indication that the person feels quite secure with his partner – who probably dominates the relationship. “The arms wrapped in it extend the desire for protection,” he says.
The spacious and the reduced : this is not a good position for the couple, according to Oliveira. “A spacious person in bed shows no affection or affection for his spouse. This seeks more space as a form of self-assertion in the relationship, “he says. For him, this position reveals that the relationship is going through a difficult time, in which the person who occupies less space feels insecure and with low self-esteem, when the person stays in the fetal position and seeing his partner, still believes in him success of the relationship. In addition, Camargo believes that sleeping on the stomach and with hands above the head indicates stubbornness, persistence and need to dominate and control the environment in which one lives.
Each in his space, with his feet entwined: this position is a sign that both love each other, but also indicates that the relationship needs attention, says Oliveira. “There is a mixture of passion and differences in the relationship. It may be that the couple lives a moment of anxiety, change of routine or pressure at work. According to Paulo Sergio de Camargo, who sleeps on his back (in this case, the man) is who does not feel the need to see his partner. While sleeping on the stomach and hands over the head (woman) reveals stubbornness and need to control the environment in which he lives. For Cavalli, as there is contact with the feet, there is still the commitment to the other and the complicity between the couple. “Since the foot is the most unconscious body area in its movement, there is a declaration of subliminal and true love in that way of sleeping,” Oliveira concludes.
Each in his space, but one touching the other : According to Paulo Sergio de Camargo, a sleeping posture like this reveals a rather spontaneous relationship. “Each respects the space of the other. They can have friends and separate activities, but trust is mutual, “he says. The extended hand reveals the intention to protect and take into account the couple, but without exaggerating. Already the face of her turned towards the man reveals confidence, while his hands under his face shows that he feels comfortable before the presence of him. For Oliveira, the demonstration of affection on the part of him, the hand on her, as if trying to discover if all is well, may be an indication that the position is the result of an attempt at reconciliation.
Back, but with one touching the other : According to Camargo, the separation shows that the couple wants freedom, but his hand on her shoulder reveals that he wants it close. “In his case, it is almost a necessity to keep in touch, to feel his partner,” says Cavalli. For Oliveira, in this case, the man is more needy and worries about the course that is taking the relationship. “There is affection, but the level is not as good as before. She with her posture towards the front, must be in a good professional moment, with high self-esteem, he seeks the support and affection of her, “he concludes.
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